Smart women don’t leave love to chance. They approach it with logic, purpose, and a touch of lip gloss.
In Unapologetically Loved, attorney and engineer turned author, Monika N. Harris-Guillory, shares her refreshingly strategic approach to modern dating for professional women. From her legendary “Cheers-style” bar meetups to her data-driven first date evaluations, Monika didn’t just hope for love, she designed it.
Inside, you’ll discover her signature D.A.T.E.R.™ System, a high-functioning formula for building intentional connections without compromising who you are. You’ll learn how to:
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Define your desired relationship with clarity and confidence
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Assemble your strategy using real-world logistics, wardrobe routines, and vetted venues
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Test, Evaluate, and Decide using Monika’s repeatable dating loop to avoid wasting time
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Apply the Partner Selection Protocol™ when you’re narrowing it down to the final few contenders
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Practice due diligence without losing your feminine power
This book doesn’t just tell you what to do, it shows you how. With fun, practical case studies and witty lessons drawn from Monika’s own dating journey, you’ll gain the tools to stop overthinking and start attracting high-quality partnership on your terms.
Meet Monika
Monika Harris-Guillory is an author and purpose-driven leader known for bringing clear, practical insight to real-life conversations about love, life, career, growth, healing, and forward movement.
Through her work, she inspires people to live with intention, strengthen their mindset, and step confidently into their next chapter with courage and consistency. Monika is widely respected for her warmth, honesty, and unwavering commitment to meaningful impact.
Trained as both a chemical engineer and an attorney, Monika brings a rare blend of structure, strategy, and sound judgment into every space she leads. Beyond her professional work, she serves as a board member for a girls’ mentoring organization and is a proud patron of the arts.
She lives by a simple motto: “Be excellent. Live softly. Love boldly. Unapologetically.”
Monika has been happily married to her husband, Jeffery, since October 2020.
Testimonial
Most relationship books give you one or the other: mindset or tools. Unapologetically Loved gives you both and that’s the real magic.
This book is not about how others need to change, or buying into a victim narrative that all is lost for women as they try to partner up. It’s a story of agency, what happens when you work on the only person you can change: YOU. From leaving dates that don’t serve you (even in the first 15 minutes), to setting rules for yourself in advance about your own behavior—what you will and will not accept, i.e., to getting out of your own way when the right man arrives but old wounds get in the way.
I’ve used this framework. It works.
Monika’s engineering and legal background shine through in the organization, precision, and the vivid picture she creates. She does this all without judgement or sounding preachy because she’s lived through false starts and found the lid to her pot. Her wisdom, kindness and care come through on every page.
The bonus is broad: these guidelines, rules, and checklists can be applied to all relationships: friendships, clients, bosses, work. Wherever you need to know what you’re willing to accept and why.
Monika’s been helping women find THE ONE. Now she brings everything she knows to this book for all. – Ify Walker